Harness replacement/setup - crotch strap questions

My SR8 had what appears to be an older style of harnesses.  

They have the latch attached to the left side lap belt.
They become 3" wide below the shoulder strap buckles,
The lap belts are 3" wide.
The crotch straps have no adjustment other than the mounting points.
The lap belts also adjust by pulling the loose end away from the mounting point (you pull them towards the buckle to cinch down).  
They work very well, nothing binds, comfort is good.  The two crotch straps have enough room in the hole in the seat base that they can spread apart just enough that there's clearance for "Me Manly Bits" and these stay happy whist driving - and we know we need happy attachments to go fast.

I replaced with the old harnesses, due to being out of date, with what Radical is now using and have a couple of questions for guys that have newer belts.

The replacements are 2" straps through out - no wider sections anywhere on the system.
The latch is attached to the crotch strap.
The crotch strap has adjustments like the lap and shoulder belts instead of being a fixed length that's set at the mounts.
The lap belts adjust by pulling away from the latch - opposite of the last set (of which I prefer - can get better pull/leverage to tighten).

So, just where are you guys placing the buckles on the crotch strap?  To get the latch in the correct spot (right below my belly button), I have to have the straps fully extended at the adjustment buckles and it places the buckles right in the opening in the bottom of the seat - it causes them to sit one in front of the other instead of side by side.  It makes for a fairly uncomfortable bump in my seat  between my, uhm, "bits" and "exit".  I feel like I'm sitting on a wide, flat stick.  

If I put the buckles below the seat I
A) can't get to the adjustment buckles
2) don't have enough length on the adjustable part of the crotch strap.  It puts the latch down about 2" lower into my crotch than it should be and is really going to make braking not a lot of fun.

If I set it up so that the buckles come through the bottom of the seat base I can adjust the needed position for the latch but I now have a pair of buckles sitting  in front of my friends and they like this even less than the lower position.  They have to be staggered with one placed in front of the other, as there's not enough room in the seat base (or between my legs, for that matter).

So all this info is to ask:  "What are you doing with the crotch strap and where are you placing the adjustment buckles?"

It's not like I'm a large guy so things are all crammed into the same area - heck, I'm 5'6"/1.67M and 160 lbs./73kg and fit well.

Do I open up the base of the seats where the buckles come through so they can sit next to each other or bring the buckles farther up so they sit inside each thigh or ???   I had the seat base in/out of the car five times yesterday playing with the *&#$ crotch strap position and still can't figure out a comfy place.  I keep thinking I'm gonna cheat and call my old crotch straps back into service even though they're out of date.

Thoughts anyone?